Thursday, May 24, 2012

Moms: Yer doin' it wrong.

Becoming a mother is one of the most challenging things a woman can do, and there's no telling whether you fucked it all up or not until your kid grows up and becomes an asshole, genius, mama's boy, philanthropist, murderer, artist, or whatever.

Imagine being told that you have a lifelong mission to accomplish. It's perhaps the most important thing you'll ever do. You'll work on it for like 15 years, make huge sacrifices, stretch your physical, emotional and intellectual limits, and have hardly any indication of how you're doing until the job is done. In fact, it's difficult to say how much of the outcome you actually influence. But you are responsible, and accountable, so don't screw it up! OK GO!

Confused? Bewildered? Of course you are. The experience of motherhood (fatherhood, too, but I'm speaking from my own experience here) can make a person extremely self-conscious and vulnerable. Sometimes judging all the terrible decisions of others (i.e., any decision that isn't the same one YOU made) makes you feel a little more confident in your own decisions.

ANd as if it's not enough that we do it to each other on a micro level, exploiting that vulnerability and pitting women against each other sells magazines, creating a huge feedback loop. Once again, on behalf of all womankind, thanks a fucking lot, media!

Stupid article that inspired my anger & this post here. For more such nonsense, look... just about anywhere.