On Anger

Like the full spectrum of human emotion, anger happens. And that's OK.

But periodically we must evaluate our emotional experiences and make a conscientious decision to either follow the path dictated by our whatevery flood of hormones & chemicals happens to be washing over our brains in that moment, or temper them and take a more rational approach.

Anger is one of many normal, natural responses to pain. When the source of that pain has the intention to inflict harm on you, anger can be extrememly useful. If you are in real and immediate danger, embracing anger can give you the strength (both physically and mentally) to respond appropriately to such a threat.

However, if your pain is the result of the ignorance, indifference, or neglect of others, anger will only serve to add to the frustration and confusion of everyone, yourself included. You'll experience it, and should definitely acknowledge it, but as a tool for resolving the conflict and ending your pain, anger is basically useless. 

I believe that most people are well-meaning, but many are oblivious. This oblivion is the cause of much of the pain we experience in modern life. That is why it is so important to possess and nurture other means of problem-solving besides anger and violence.

Means such as:
Compassion
Forgiveness
Self-respect
Self-confidence

These are all tools that can be used to cope with loss, reduce fear, and alleviate suffering. They aren't just inherent personality traits; they are skills that must be developed and practiced.

When you attempt to put anger aside and reach for another solution to your problem, and find your toolbox empty, what else can yo do but fall back on the tools you have available?